Time to let the cat out of the bag..

Secrets?

How long can you keep them? A few days.. a few months.. some even bury them for years..eons.....

How often should we hide stuffs from others?

Well, I came across this article from TODAY (today's paper); asians are found to be more reserved about their inner thoughts & feelings. It also state that we have this constant 'bad' habit of bottling things up.. as much as we could.. till the pressure builds up in the bottle..and... BLAST OFF!!!

Well.. the consequences of such a situation vary of course.. depending on your environment and your inner mind, heart and soul power. Honestly speaking, I am very much guilty of the situation above. My 'retention power' started to drain off gradually as the years passed by.. There and then, I started to question myself: -

Are all these efforts of hiding the real truth (or the real you for that matter) worth it ?? ?

Hey, if it leads to self-destruction.. you know you've got to get out of that rut, somehow or rather.. Yeah.. no more hiding in the closet or in your own created fantasy world... Pull Up that Socks.. or stockings..

However, unfortunately, in the harsh reality of life, things are always easier said than done.

So why do we keep secrets???

1) Fear & Shame

2) Rejection

3) Ridiculed

4) Must save the 'face' / the 'persona'.. keep in untarnished.

5) To feel accepted (must look good all the time)

6) Attempt to erase past

So, 'ms confused' here tried to draw up my own set of strategies, in getting myself out of sticky situations.

1: Weigh the pros and cons.

(Remember: Only fools rush in, Bigger fools dive in & never to re-surface)

Writing them down would be a BIG help. 'Thinking and thinking' will only lead you to an increased intake of Panadols at the end of the day. Having a journal or talking it out to someone whom u trust with all your life helps.

2: Hypothesis of Consequences.

3. Be Sure, Be decisive, No hesitations.

4. 4 C's

Courage, Confidence, Calmness & finally be Cool about it..

hmm.. this should be a gd start.. wish me luck.. (",)